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I love this quote because the reality of it has hit me very hard in recent days. Even at my age, the child in me still believes it has no rights, that its feelings are wrong and that they are judged harshly for how some things affect them. I have never told the full story of my childhood because I'm still a child. I still have a living, breathing parent and I have no siblings to validate or to share my lived experience. To have an only child and to create such havoc in an emotional storm for all these decades must surely equate to winning the game. Right?  News just to hand and a conversation about what it means to be given a name has just set off a series of after shocks that while I know I will recover from are currently causing some enormous mental tidal waves. A name? How can such a small thing create such a huge issue in someone who is not even remotely involved in the decision? How can nobody who knows you so well even pick up on these devastating effects? And why is t

So what's the difference between what & what?  Which & Who? Why & Why Not? Today is a day that has had me wondering for quite a while. Today my dearest friend would have been 60 years old. But he's not here any more. He died. Well to be precise he ended his life.  I'll get to that. I made gingernut biscuits for his 19th birthday. Why? I don't know really.  I was 12 almost 13 and this family I had heard about all my life were coming for afternoon tea.  My grandma's best friend, with her daughter and her grandson.  Big age gap at that point in time. I loved cooking and I was helping. Well avoiding toxic fumes from a narcissistic relative but I didn't know that at the time. This larger than life, kinder than kind person graced us with his presence along with the rest of his family. We sat squished into a tiny living room (60's houses were not huge). All 3 generations. All 8 people. We had afternoon tea and this human and I watched the older

Recently I've seen a challenging difference in the workforce and the community that has caused me to question the difference between ethics and ego. Can we have both? Or are they mutually exclusive? I believe that good leaders create great leaders. If you are mentoring and teaching in an effective way, you will actually be the cocoon in which that beautiful butterfly grows its wings and flies strongly off into the unknown. The greatest compliment you will receive from that butterfly will come in the form of other butterflies you meet in your flights and journeys. They will say "Do you know x? They said you were the biggest influence on their life". What a great thing for anyone to say!  That you were a great influence. That's ethics. Ethics are a great influence. Ethics are the small voices in your head that says you should let that butterfly grow, develop and fly free. Ethics say that if you lose that butterfly from your tree they will take the pollen to another